One of challenges brought along with teen pregnancies is the
lost of friends. In my opinion, friendships are individuals supporting each
other, emotionally, physically, and mentally. In all teen pregnancy sites it
tells you that you lose friends. Well, I wish I could tell you this is a myth
but it’s true. I’m not saying that it
happens in each teen pregnancy situation but if definitely happens to many. I
would watch all the shows and read the articles and thought to myself that I
would never lose my friends but it happened.
Once I had
my son I found myself drifting away from my friends but most importantly my
best friend, Morgan. Morgan was always there for me; we talked about everything
and laughed about anything. Every person has that one friend they are the
closest to and she was that person for me. Morgan and I stopped talking, We
walked pass each other in the halls like we didn’t know each other. The
awkwardness between her and I was something I thought we would never experience.
Eventually, we started talking again. We aren’t like we used to be but that’s okay,
She will always be my best friend.
My son
Jaken is my life, my responsibility; he is what makes me happy now. My life was
committed to Jaken; I had no time to text, to call, or to visit Morgan. Yes,
she was there when I had him, she brought him clothes, and diapers, I
appreciated that, of course. I tried my hardest to keep in-touch with her, to
stay in-touch with all my friends but it was difficult. I grew further and
further away from my best friend, I had less in common with my friends. I tried
my hardest to stop it but I felt like I had no control.
I would never
change my life, because motherhood is the greatest blessing. Once you become a
mother all your attention is committed to that one little soul. I’ve gone
through the motherhood challenges at a very young age but I would never take it
back.
I want my
friends to know that being a mother is challenging. Yes, I would love to be at
basketball games, dances, and be creating life long memories with them. But
Jaken is my life now. I can’t explain it any better. So to all my friends out
there, I’m Sorry for not participating enough or being there when my presence
is needed. I love my friends that have been supporting me through out this
challenge. Thank-you for being here for me, with your supporting words and the
comments of Jaken when you see him.
So with this I say, “Cherish Your
Friends, Don’t take them for granted.” No matter what you go through they will
always be there for you, to listen to your problems and to have you’re back no
matter what.
Tiana you are such an inspiration to me! Your dedication and commitment to your son is absolutely incredible! It’s true; we see shows and read articles that depict the vision of the typical “teen mom”. I see you with, and without, Jaken and I know that you have broken those stereotypes. I say without as well because you still act as a mother even when you are not around your son. Your life is completely dedicated to him and that is a beautiful thing! I will never forget at our student council Christmas party when we did white elephant and you took the “child” presents because Jaken was the number on thing on your mind! That is so incredibly inspiring! You are an outstanding mom, Tiana, and I, as well as so many others, are so proud of you! Keep doing what you are doing and you will, without a doubt, do incredible things!
ReplyDeleteTiana, I respect you so much. You are such a strong girl. You have been through so much and you are still going. I am sure most people who know you feel the same way I do about you. The way things look for a teen having a child seem very challenging and sometimmes a fee teens don't want to take up that challenge of raising a child and you have which is aan amazing thing because you are a wonderful parent and I know that even if you struggle you will get far in your future. Continue to be a great mom. I love you!
ReplyDeleteTiana,
ReplyDeleteYou are so strong! I would not know what do to if I was in your position. I wish they showed more of the difficulties and losses that you have experienced in that TV show Teen Mom. It has to be difficult to be a teen mom. You are such an amazing girl, and your story should be one of inspiration. Even if things are difficult, you should just keep going, and things will be better. P.S Jaken is a really cute name!